Comments on: What I’ve learnt about love and girls

By: sebastian

sebastian — Wed, 29 Apr 2009 12:11:02 +0000

You know, perhaps because I’m male (we’re good at tunnel-visioning), I normally give my girlfriends single gifts — a nice dinner OR a trip to the theatre OR some jewellery. I never did subscribe to the whole ’scatter gun’ approach to romance.

I’m also the kind of person that buys a very specific birthday/Christmas gift for someone, in the hope that they’ll really enjoy it. I can imagine it’s more the ‘unromantic’ (’unwise’?) guys that tend to buy a huge number of gifts in the hope that one of them hits the spot!

By: Jay

Jay — Wed, 29 Apr 2009 09:46:09 +0000

Thanks for replying Sebastian

Quick question about the topic I raised… Now that you’ve had it sitting in the back of your mind, in hindsite, have you ever encountered anything like this? Where you feel you’ve given alot but your woman sees it as just a single, but still special present?

P.S. (Again ) I didn’t mean to class all women together, of course all women are different. My angle stated was actually derived from the book ‘Men are from Mars, Woman are from Venus’… Just in my words

By: sebastian

sebastian — Mon, 27 Apr 2009 13:05:13 +0000

Hi Jay! That’s a very well thought-out response… and an angle I had never looked at before

Very true though, which is odd because guys tend to be portrayed as ‘not caring’ and ‘gruff’… but really, if we were to get some kind of keepsake or present from a loved one, that would be much more significant than just yet another sex act in the bedroom!

I’m sure not all girls are like that though, merging all their gifts into one. But if you’re certain, I’ll have to be sure to spread out the gifts I give in the future. No more love-orgies, as you aptly put it

By: Jay

Jay — Mon, 27 Apr 2009 12:57:28 +0000

You forgot a part of relationships that I understand, but still have trouble with.
I’ll put it simply.
A payed night out, a present, and later on a dance and later still, dessert on the couch watching a movie.
Girls see this as a gift from her man, and either inwardly or outwardly show this.
Guys, we see it as not one, but 5 seperate gifts! A night out – nice one, a present – how expensive? A dance – could be awkward, maybe not a gift Dessert on the couch – could lead to something, can’t wait!

See the difference?
Guys count their gifts, big ones are worth alot of points, and the smaller ones worth less points. Women don’t — they see every gift as a medium one, each worth the same, and group them all together.

Get a guy a new ring? He’ll be utterly pleased. A ring and a hand-written letter, a big one and a small one. Good job.
Get a girl some flowers and a ring and a handwritten poem and buy her dinner? It’s one big love-orgy, but is classed all as one.

Basically, if you got that, guys seperate and keep different gifts apart in their minds, where as women see all gifts as equal. Try and remember that

P.S. Good job, Sebastian.

By: sebastian

sebastian — Thu, 02 Apr 2009 12:55:43 +0000

Ah, a guide to understanding guys, for girls… Now that is an idea. I’ll have a think about it, but really… I have so few male friends, and introspection is a lot harder than experimentation and observation! I’ll try, though

By: Renee

Renee — Thu, 02 Apr 2009 05:50:16 +0000

That is quite good. I’d love an understanding guys version for girls if you ever felt like it. And yes, I’d love it if guys understood us better. Of course I’d love to mention how nice it would be to be pursued, and a whole bunch of other things.

By: sebastian

sebastian — Wed, 01 Apr 2009 20:18:35 +0000

I was warning you because I was well aware that it might get a little too close to home; a little too accurate. I guess, ironically, I misjudged what the female reaction would be… seems girls WANT to be understood. It must be quite rough, being misunderstood by around 50% of the world’s population…!

Now I just need a bunch of girly magazines to link to me, and then I’ll get asked to host a ‘Dr Seb’ section at the back.

I like foot massages too.

By: Eleni

Eleni — Wed, 01 Apr 2009 20:11:21 +0000

Surprisingly fair

After your warning to us girls at the beginning I was a little worried, but there wasn’t anything in particular that I could object to. All generally true. Nicely done. And it’s somewhat informative to us girls, too, giving us a sense of the way guys think and the kinds of mistakes they are likely to make simply because they don’t know better.

Another WRONG response to the “Do I look fat?” question: “I like a girl with a little meat on her.” Doesn’t matter if it’s true, it is STILL WRONG. This happened to a friend of mine once.

Also: foot massages are very nice.

By: sebastian

sebastian — Tue, 31 Mar 2009 23:39:08 +0000

Of course, looked after, but without being STIFLED! Everyone (boys and girls) has to believe they are a ‘viable human being’. I know, it’s an awful turn of phrase, but it basically means: good enough at surviving, without being a leech, or needing a crutch.

And I don’t think it’s just you.

By: golublog

golublog — Tue, 31 Mar 2009 23:33:39 +0000

Lol. How did you know girls think orgasm orgasm all day. Or is it just me. It’s also true that girls like to be taken care of, that was pretty accurate, as long as we can still say we don’t need to be taken care of.